Types of Abusive Men

There are many different types of abusers.  Some of the characteristics of these abusers are; demanding, overly charming in cycles, psychologically manipulating, possessive, controlling, angry, overly flirtatious to other women, talks about women as though they are pieces of meat, aggressive, threatening, and engages in illegal behaviors.  There is a large amount of variation among abusers.  Many abusers may exhibit all of these characteristics and some may exhibit only one.  Also, some abusers can change from each day and be very unpredictable.  He may exhibit many different characteristics from day to day.  Any abuser may have days when he appears loving, gentle and thoughtful.  Abuse will return eventually unless the abuser makes that step to get help and deal with his abusiveness.
Physical violence or sexual assault may occur with any type of abuser and some are more severe than others.  Often, if an abuser feels that his control over you is slipping, the abuse becomes more severe and scary.  Women have reported that the abuse becomes more severe when she threatens to leave the relationship.    

Here is a link to an article with tips to use to avoid an abusive relationship.  This article focuses on an abuser's behaviors and attitudes towards women. 
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/200812/are-you-dating-abuser

On one of the last nights I spent trying to leave an abusive relationship, the abuser told me to listen to this song because this was how he really felt about our relationship.  He played the song for me in his truck while tears streamed down his face.  Until I posted this blog, I had never looked at the words to this song.  When I listened to the song in his truck, the only words I heard were "I wanna push you around, well I will."  I don't know if he meant for me to hear it from the woman's perspective or from his.

She said "I don't know if I've ever been good enough.
I'm a little bit rusty, and I think my head is caving in.
And I don't know if I've ever been really loved
by a hand that's touched me, and I feel like something's gonna give.
And I'm a little bit angry."

well, this ain't over.
no not here, not while I still need you around.
you don't owe me, we might change.
yeah we just might feel good

I wanna push you around
well I will, well I will
I wanna push you down
well I will, well I will
I wanna take you for granted
I wanna take you for granted
yeah, well I will

She said "I don't know why you ever would lie to me,
like I'm a little untrusting when I think that the truth is gonna hurt ya.
And I don't know why you couldn't just stay with me,
you couldn't stand to be near me when my face don't seem to want to shine
'cause it's a little bit dirty."

well, don't just stand there
say nice things to me,
'cause I've been cheated, I've been wronged.
and you, you don't know me
I can't change - I won't do anything at all.

I wanna push you around
well I will, well I will
I wanna push you down
well I will, well I will
I wanna take you for granted
I wanna take you for granted
yeah, well I will

oh, but don't bowl me over
just wait a minute, well I kinda fell apart
things get so crazy, crazy
don't rush this baby
don't rush this baby, baby, baby ...

I wanna push you around
well I will, well I will
I wanna push you down
well I will, well I will
I wanna take you for granted
I wanna take you for granted
yeah, well I will

I wanna push you around
well I will, well I will
I wanna push you down
well I will, well I will
I wanna take you for granted
I wanna take you for granted
yeah, well I will 

Here are some websites to help with distinguishing different types of abusive men.
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm
http://www.authorsden.com/categories/article_top.asp?catid=57&id=28889